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[13 Mar 2005|10:56am]

I made a memorial for Liz aka soyfaerie. Come share your memories or just leave virtual flowers.
jaynedahmer, I hope you don't mind that I used your picture of Liz. If you do let me know and I can remove it.
I was pretty sure her middle name was Ann but not 100% so if anyone knows different please let me know.

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[27 Feb 2005|09:43pm]

I'm sorry to leave the message this way...
One of your members, Liz Chipman, aka Soyfaerie, passed away last night at approximately 3am.
If you;'d like further information, please feel free to e-mail me at brooha at earthlink.net (done that way to confuse spambots)
Thanks you, Yvonne (Liz's friend)
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Hello? [13 Sep 2004|09:03pm]
Hi I joined this group a while ago and I don't see any posts on my friend's page...does that mean this group isn't that active? Just wondering...

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[30 Jul 2004|11:32am]

[ mood | geeky ]

Took Liz's suggestion and wrote to the Yahoo Avatar suggestion thingy. Here is a response I got... Just a day after submitting the suggestion.

Hello ,

Thank you for writing to Yahoo! Avatar.

We appreciate your suggestions and comments regarding Yahoo! Avatars.
It is through users' feedback that we are able to continue to make

We are planning to bring out additional hairstyles, clothing,
accessories and even new faces as we continue to develop Yahoo! Avatars,
and your suggestion will be added to the "want" list.

Thank you again for contacting Yahoo! Customer Care.



Yahoo! Customer Care

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Tell Yahoo about their avatars!!! [30 Jul 2004|10:18am]

[ mood | cheerful ]

For those of you who use the newest messenger, version 6.0, you'll probably notice that you can make your own customizable avatars that are supposed to represent your appearance. Did you ever notice that everything that they offer for avatars is geared to thin, popsickle-stick women? I wrote them this message (And so can you. The more people who write, the better we will be heard.)

Here's the link to the form where you can choose "suggestion" and write one in the space provided:


AOL Click here

Here is the message that I sent to Yahoo, just in case you were curious:


I'm writing in with a suggestion for you when it comes to Yahoo! Messenger Avatars. I applaud you for making all skin tones and all hair types/styles available to everyone to choose for their avatar, but you're missing a large part of the picture, literally! All of your avatars are of thin women and they all look like they weigh 100 lbs. There isn't a single face, shirt, pants or anything catered to big women. If you're trying to make it a diverse selection, perhaps adding stuff for big women (and I don't mean "size 12" big women) would really be a nice advantage for me and people like myself. Many of my friends (including myself) are 300 lbs.+ and we'd also like for our avatars to resemble what we look like, too! Give us a chance, Yahoo! Thanks for hearing me out!


If you've decided to take a stand, comment and post your letter!

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[26 Jun 2004|07:19am]

[ mood | good ]

Has anyone ever had "weird" treatment at the doctor's office? Now, I know that probably ALL of us have come across downright rude, demeaning, self-righteous jerks for doctors, but I mean the type of people who give you looks like you disgust them just by being there. For example, this past Friday when I had to have my spinal pump put in, the girl in control of this huge x-ray was probably 4'9" and 80 lbs. Anyway, she kept making faces like she was annoyed and she kept sighing when they were trying to position the x-ray on me correctly. Have you ever run across people like that who you KNOW are thinking horrid thoughts about you in their mind and you just want to scream "HEY, I KNOW I'M FAT, GET OVER IT!!!"


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[10 Feb 2004|11:32pm]

Hi, I've just joined and thought I'd introduce myself. I'm Kari, a 23 year old New Zealander. *waves* :-)

Up until about 3 years ago, I was a healthy 'normal' weight, but I became sick with CFS and have been pretty much housebound since. So, of course, the weight piled on, and I'm now approaching obesity, if I'm not already there.

Such a dramatic change in my weight has been a real eye-opener for me. As well as the health problems I've of course had to deal with the psychological impacts, and the change in how I am perceived by others (and sadly, by myself too). I'm not going to go into all of that now though.

The last few days I've been thinking about how the world is designed for those of 'normal' weights. Things like toilet cubicles, that you have to squeeze yourself into, getting into the back seat of 3-door cars, the size of chairs and so forth. (I'm not even going to start on clothes...)

Theses are things you don't even consider when you are a 'normal' weight. I never did until I started growing. I was considering starting a community for larger people to bitch about these things, the things we can't bitch about to 'normal' sized people without comments, like 'well, if you lost some weight...'. But I found this community, which I have a feeling would be a suitable outlet for such things...

Anyway, that's me, hi! :-)

Oh yeah, I also have a weightloss journal, shrinking_kari, but I haven't really updated it much, so I thought it made sense to join this community with the journal I actually use :-)
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[03 Feb 2004|01:51am]

[ mood | irritated ]

I wonder where the idea originated that fat=ugly. I mean, really. It's like that stupid "dark-skinned Blacks are ugly" stereotype/crap. I, for one, refuse to feel like crap about myself just because society wants me to hate myself. There, I said it. Just wanted to vent a bit. Fatphobes annoy me almost more than anything...

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Miss Plump Universe [28 Oct 2003|12:06pm]

[ mood | impressed ]


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[28 Oct 2003|12:06pm]

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[20 Sep 2003|10:58pm]

[ mood | nauseated ]

Cross-posted from my journal with a bit more commentary:

I'm back from the hospital again, second night in a row. My one level of something in my blood wasn't increased, so they didn't think it was an FMF attack. They put me on IV fluids and gave me 2 big doses of pain meds, which didn't help, then my whole body started locking up and hurting, so the doctor got me on another IV bag full of meds. I feel a bit better, I guess. He said that I have a viral infection. Blah. He was really nice, though. The nurse was kind of rude, she goes "You're in here *all the time*, it gets expensive ya know?" and my mom started crying telling her "Yeah, well most people don't realize that if this goes to her heart, she could die!" and the nurse didn't say anything. I was so sick at first that I couldn't even walk, and the triage nurse was rude, too, she said "Here, stand up, we're going to check your weight" and when I told her that I was weak (Duhr, why else would I have had to have been wheeled in in a wheelchair?), she goes "There are RAILS on the SIDES of the SCALE." I said "Yeah, well I don't want to fall" and I told her that I had weighed about 3 weeks ago, she goes "Are you POSITIVE??" I said "Yes".....they've never done that to me before and I've never seen her there before, either. I hope I don't see her again...ugh...fatphobes make me so mad, I think she was just doing it to try and make me feel ugly and/or gross for being fat, you wouldn't believe the stuff people in the medical field have said and done to me because of my weight, it's so stupid. Anyway, the doctor was GREAT, I really liked him, he went through my bloodwork results with me and everything.

What irritates me is that they don't know which fat people are fat because they eat too much, or if it's because of a medical problem. Regardless, I don't think that someone should be treated with less dignity and respect than anyone else because they're overweight, even if it is because they overeat. I consume less food than what most people do, and what I do eat couldn't be much healthier. I see it along the same lines as racism - discrimination against someone for their outer appearance. I always feel the need to tell medical personnel right off the bat that I'm a vegan so I don't have to hear "Well, your weight is a huge issue, maybe if you didn't eat so much blah blah blah".....it's like people feel like they have to tell me I'm fat....hello, you don't have to be THAT observant to notice that....it's like they think fat people are living in lala land, that we don't know we're obese. Like tonight, the one nurse that I know said "Your weight can't make you feel much better, either, have they considered a gastric bypass?" After I've already told her and others 100000 times that MY DOCTORS SAY THAT MY WEIGHT IS NOT CAUSED BY A DIETARY ISSUE. My doctors REFUSE to do stomach-stapling because I don't overeat. I don't consume waaaay too many calories. Gastric bypass would NOT fix the problem. It's like it's so hard for some people to believe that all fat people don't eat like hogs, it's frustrating.

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[13 Sep 2003|08:44pm]

[ mood | Zapped ]

This is irritating. I got into an argument with this girl at Bolt on the Race Relations board:

Her post (they were talking about a music video):

Yeah, what if it's a 300 pound woman like in that stupid juvenile video? >.<

My response:

Just because we're fat doesn't make us ugly. Do you normally make a practice of discriminating against people or saying that a certain group of people are ugly or whatever because of their appearance? I don't know what other thought you'd be trying to convey here...

Her response to me:

Where did I say that? I never said anything like that. You need to chill out. Quit putting words in my mouth. And I DO NOT discriminate. I just think it's disgusting when women wear practically nothing and try to show all of it, especially when they're obese. I don't want to see their ass and everything else hanging out everywhere. It's gross. It's STILL gross when it's a SKINNY person.

My response to that:

* Where did I say that? I never said anything like that. You need to chill out.

You don't know the stigma that fat women have to live with everyday, and most of the time, it's not even our fault that we're fat to begin with. Like I said at the end of my post, I don't know what other thought you'd be trying to convey.

* I don't want to see their ass and everything else hanging out everywhere. It's gross. It's STILL gross when it's a SKINNY person.

I agree, but I'm sure that others would have gotten offended had you said something like "Yeah, what if it's a Black woman like in that stupid juvenile video? >.<"...it's like just because someone is fat, it makes it worse. I don't go wearing clothes that are too small and I don't feel the need to show everyone else my business, I just get tired of fat women taking all of the flack, and some people don't even realize they're doing it, case in point right here.

She hasn't responded in 3 days, so I doubt that she responds at all.

Ok, question for you all. Why are the below statements, when a word is substituted for "fat" or "300-lb." considered offensive, while the original statement is not?

Original statement: Yeah, what if it's a 300 pound woman like in that stupid juvenile video? >.<

Yeah, what if it's an ugly Mexican woman like in that stupid juvenile video? >.<

Yeah, what if it's a nasty lesbian like in that stupid juvenile video? >.<

Yeah, what if it's a dork in a wheelchair like in that stupid juvenile video? >.<


In my opinion, discriminating against someone for their weight is no different than being a racist. It's all prejudice based on the way someone's appearance looks, and I have no tolerance for that.

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Anyone else? [03 Jul 2003|02:44pm]

[ mood | ditzy ]

Has anyone else (I KNOW lactwn has) had bad experiences with the staff and/or doctor about their weight? It seems like anywhere I go, no matter what problem I have, even if it's a freaking cold or ear infection, my weight is somehow to blame. After awhile, I wouldn't go to a doctor who won't address the real problem, but boy I can NOT stand this one nurse!

Yesterday, she kept talking to me yet AGAIN about a weight loss program and about losing weight....this is the same nurse that's mean and has made my mom cry before, and she's also tried showing me about this program EACH time I go to this doctor, I think once has she NOT tried giving me the brochure about this weight loss program. EACH time I said "NO", the doctor even said NO because the problem isn't my diet. Yesterday before she called me back into a room, she comes out with the brochures yet again and goes "I know that even though you're vegan, you might be interested in this, cos they're going to be moving to another hospital" I said "No, you've showed me a THOUSAND times, I do NOT want that!!!" She said "Ohhhh, I've showed you before??" I go "Yes, ALL the time!" then my friend (who knows how the nurse is) goes "YEAH, she's doing GREAT! *I* help her out!", then the nurse goes "Oh, ok" and takes the papers back in. Then when we get into the room, when she's checking my vitals, I think she didn't believe my friend and thought she was lying about being an herbalist cos she goes "What are you again? Where are you located? Where again? How close to the ****** bridge? On Highway 98? What side of the road is it on?" and my friend answered all her questions, it sounded like an interrogation. I think the nurse is mad cos I don't hate myself, and she thinks I should cos I'm fat. She's always making remarks to me, like yesterday when I weighed, I lost 4 more pounds and she goes "That's cos you said you didn't eat yesterday, right?"(I said I had hurt too badly to eat the day before) I said "No, I've been doing good on my food!" and my friend goes "Yes, she has!" and the nurse touches my arm and goes sarcastically "Suuuuure you haaaaave..." It made me so mad...then when the nurse came back out to give me my spinal tap schedule (more of those, yay!), I asked her if steroids would make me gain weight. The nurse said "yes" and I said "Funny, cos I just got a steroid shot yesterday and I STILL lost 4 lbs." and right after that my friend goes "Yeah, and if she lost 4 lbs. STILL after taking the shot, then that means she's lost even MORE weight than than!" then the nurse goes "Maybe you really did lose weight then...." Also, she said it'll be a shame cos the weight loss management was gonna be moving to another hospital (their scale weighs people who weight over 350 lbs. I'm at 365 now.) and I said "Yeah, well it won't be long and I'll be able to weigh..." and she cuts in "on OUR scale!! Keep up the good work!!" My friend said she thinks the nurse overheard me talkng about how much she hurt my feelings and made me mad, so that's why she was nicer when she came out....who knows.....but one of these days, I'm just going to have to get her TOLD if she starts that crap with me again, cos like Dee Snider "I'm not gonna take it"!

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[20 Jun 2003|02:16pm]

[ mood | hyper ]

If anyone hasn't heard the song "Go Big Girl" by Black Dave, download it! That song makes me feel soooo goood and it finally glamourizes big women!! For those of you who don't like cussing, you might wanna get the edited version which I have (IM me on AIM, Yahoo or ICQ) and I'll send it to you!!


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Shallow Hal [02 Apr 2003|12:21am]

[ mood | good ]

Has anyone saw this movie? I commented on it at IMDB and would like others' ideas and opinions:

I saw this movie a couple of years ago and it offended me for a number of reasons:

I know that they're trying to say it's what's on the inside that counts, which is true, but they're also saying that fat women can't be beautiful, that it's something you have to *look past* in order to see the "true person". Like he loved her *despite* her being 350 lbs. If someone is gonna love me, then they're gonna love all 378 lbs. of me; there won't be anything to "look past". Another thing that proves my point is that they used Gwyneth Paltrow for one of the main roles. Now WHY didn't they use a *real* big woman like Kathy Bates (Fried Green Tomatoes) or Kathy Kinney (Drew Carey Show)? They used Gwyneth Paltrow in a "fat suit", which further makes me believe that they think fat women can't be beautiful or they would have used someone who was really big in order to make their point. Now, I thought that the way they showed what torment a lot of us big women go through everyday with the stares, comments....etc. was good, but they also countered that "good" act with making her eat like a pig and having her chair collapse, which also is a slap in the face to many big people, because not all of us eat too much (I'm a vegan, as well), some of us are big because of medical problems (like myself) and not all of us have had a chair collapse; I haven't. The way that she got made fun of brought back many memories for me being an overweight teen and I think that they could have done a LOT of good with this movie had they actually gotten input from big people and then tried to expose the stereotyping of big people. I give this movie a 1, it only perpetuates the stereotypes I have to live with every day as a big woman as well as many other heavy people, and I found this movie highly offensive.

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[24 Mar 2003|09:59pm]

[ mood | annoyed ]

I'm just now watching Dr. Phil and they're talking about weight issues. I can't believe some of the people on there, they act like fat people CHOOSE to be fat!! It irritates me that the stereotyping is so bad that people assume that I eat like a pig when I'm a vegan and eat as healthy or healthier than most thin people. I wish that every person who is disgusted by, discriminates against or makes fun of fat people would get to live in my shoes for one month and live with my health problems and eating habits and then we'd see how great they felt about stigmatizing fat people. A lot of people say "Well, it's ok cos you can't help it..." Well, how do you know that some of the other fat people can't help it, either? How do you know we did it to ourselves? Do you think I gave myself deformed legs and a messed-up spine on purpose? How do you know that the fat person you made fun of today isn't fat strictly due to health problems, like me? Would you like to be like I am, with a high fever for 3 years, have 6 leg reconstructions, major spinal problems, be on a breathing machine at times, be on 16 medicines, have 2 rare disorders, including several other ones as well as ending up in the hospital twice a month because of a disorder getting out of control, and then have people laugh at you and *assume* you're fat cos you eat like a pig when all you eat are fruits, vegetables and vegetable-derived products? I might have an order of fries or a vegan brownie once in a blue moon, but that doesn't account for me being 378 lbs., now does it? I really don't see any difference in being racist or homophobic when it comes to disliking someone for their body size, either.

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[25 Feb 2003|04:20pm]

been having a look at the hot topic website... anyone got any ideas how i can find out how much it is when dollars are converted to sterling?
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[18 Feb 2003|10:48am]

[ mood | aggravated ]

Hey everyone,

So this is the first time I've posted, for anyone who doesn't know me, I'm Jen.

I'm Scottish, 21 and I'm a friend of the wonderful Soyfaerie.

Today I am having an icky blob day. Usually I'm quite confident despite being a larger lady, but I feel kind of down. Those of you who read my other diary will know this already!!

Arguing with the boyfriend hasn't helped either.


Anyway I'm going to stop being a whiner, I just wanted to say hey.


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Ugh. [12 Feb 2003|05:39pm]

[ mood | lethargic ]

For the past 5 years I have been on the Depo-Provera shot. My last shot was April of last year.
Yesterday I started my period for the first time in all those years.
I feel like hell.
Since I am a BW (Big Woman), I need to double up on the sanitary napkins.

Someone shoot me now.

Cramps... hurt... like hell.


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Clothes [10 Feb 2003|06:35pm]

Does anyone know of any good clothing stores that sell nice clothes for big women? Places that don't just sell monotones or flower/stripe prints? I know Hot Topic has plus sizes, but I think they only go up to 2x, and I need at least a 3x. Has anyone ever ordered anything from torrid.com?
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